Hi Haydens Mummy,
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your precious baby boy at the hands of this vile condition.
It seems that your instincts were right when at 5 months you felt so swollen & unwell.
It is such a balancing act with this condition.
On one hand you balance early delivery & all that entails against leaving baby where he is in the hope that the pregnancy can be prolonged.
The trouble is that this condition doesnt always give clear pictures as to what is really going on.
Whilst you were doing well, perhaps it seemed that this was the best place for your son. But you should have been watched like a hawk and your fears should never have been dismissed.
I hope the Consultant will be able to give you some answers on how your condition progressed. I found working in the same 'timeline' that you remember and having this supported by your notes easiest. I also found that what I remembered and what I thought I remembered to be quite a blur. Things that seem so vivid after a few days were actually happening much earlier than I remembered.
It might help to make some notes about the questions you want answered beforehand as well as taking someone with you who will help you to remember what was said.
Also actually obtaining a copy of your notes for future referral can be helpful. I know women who when they feel really down and start to question the 'what ifs' again, they have something concrete to look back at.
Whatever the outcome - I really hope you can find the support & information here that you are looking for.
You are amongst people who can truly appreciate your pain & anger as a grieving mum.
Warmest Wishes
Liz
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Every Woman is entitled to understand what happened in her pregnancy when pre eclampsia strikes. I hope to be able to support that process.