Hi Bens Mummy,
This is a topic very close to my heart so Thank you for raising this, in what I am sure will become a 'hot topic'!
I too was told that my daughter would be about 5 before she 'caught up'. The truth is it depends on all manner of things, like gestational age & struggles through the neonatal period as well as the childs own 'make up'.
My daughter did reach her early years milestones - eventually and in her own sweet style! She crawled after she could walk! As she was attached to an oxygen cylinder till she was 2 1/2 she just rolled on the floor for ages then when she found her mobility (up the stairs usually!) she was off! This was about 3 years old.
Now at 11 years old, I cant keep her still - not because of ADHD or anything like that but because she wants to know about everything! She still has hurdles she has to overcome but essentially she is happy being her!
Academic stuff and other 'milestones' are something I have learned to not try and benchmark her against. She has her own benchmark because of the tricky start she had in life.
Thats me as a mum!
Me as a teacher of kids with special needs says, show me an 'average' child - there is no such thing! Kids will develop to their potential when all the love & support is behind them to encourage them to be who they are and not what a text book says they should be!
If Ben is showing interest in the world around him and making an effort to interact with it then assuming nothing is physically wrong (which your HV should be monitoring too) the he will get where he wants to be - how he wants to get there in his own sweet style too!
If your instinct feels there is something wrong though - trust it & get it checked.
Every Woman is entitled to understand what happened in her pregnancy when pre eclampsia strikes. I hope to be able to support that process.